Sorry for the delay in posts over the holiday! i am sure that everyone else’s Christmas and New Years’ was just as chaotic and busy as it is every year. So how was everyone’s holiday?
1. So over the holiday my husband and i watched a “Bad Moms: Christmas” and i do not really know about all of you but the original movie and the Christmas one really have some things that hit home to me…. “’Moms don’t enjoy they give joy.’ – Ruth” so this line kind of hits home and really makes me think. Some times as moms we are just so busy being a mom and making the season the best for the kids so they have a wonderful Christmas that we do not enjoy the season with our kiddos. We are so wrapped up in what is supposed to be a “perfect Christmas” and buying/making gifts and wrapping them for every teacher, friend, coworker, and family member in our kids and significant other’s lives that we do not take the time to be present in the season. We are worried about them having great memories and having a wonderful Christmas so we don’t “ruin” their lives that we can forget to enjoy it.
2. In one of the final big scenes, when Amy goes to the midnight mass service to fin her mother after their fight. The conversation with her mom is what i want to talk about next: [Ruth] “…obviously, you made an incredible number of bad decisions this Christmas as well. But..for the tiny fraction of blame falls on me…” Amy “Thank you. Mom, I know that that was really, really hard for you to say. ..um..you know what? I just, I want you to know that I finally understand why you’re like this. And I need you to know…that I love you. […] I don’t think you’re worthless. I think you’re ** amazing. […] And no matter what anyone says…I think you’re a great mom. […] Yeah. Yeah, I loved my childhood. I did. You gave me everything that I needed. And you always pushed me to do better. And were you perfect? No. But none of us are. So, I just…I really want you to know…that you did great.” Ruth “That’s the nicest thing that anyone has ever said to me….I actually think that you’re a really wonderful mom. I mean, your kids are so happy. They’re so sweet and they love you so much. […] I mean, I wish…I wish I was as close to you as you are to your kids.” Amy “We still can, Mom” Ruth “Wow, I’m just not very good at this, Amy. But I just love you so much” Amy “I love you so much, I do” [They hug] “…We gotta save Christmas” Ruth “Oh, my God. I’ve been waiting my whole life for this” [They rush out of the church and go to Amy’s house to fix the mess]
The reason that the scene near the end stuck out to me, is the back and forth struggle with my mom growing up and being a mom myself now. I just feel like there is so much pressure. Wanting to feel good enough for your mom and the expectations that she has for you. Wanting to be good enough for your kids so they know that they are loved and taken care of. As a mom overall, i feel like there are such stigmas and an expectation on moms these days to be able to do everything. You are shamed for working and putting your kid(s) into daycare but you are shamed for being home with your kid(s). It is a damned if you do and damned if you don’t.
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Thank you all for stopping in again! Here’s to a new year! Everyone stay safe!
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