How do you greet people…
Hey ladies, my name is abs. No capitals, no full names just “abs” and i do not refer to myself in proper capitalization as a “proper noun”, haha, i digress… At this point in time, i am officially less than 6 months away from being the big 3-0! Like seriously, how can i be almost thirty!? My childhood is a novel all its own and my teens were just normal high school drama with stupid boys. Then my late teens/early 20’s greeted me with parties at my apartment and becoming a mom, my mid-twenties made me a mother again. Now as i round my way to 30 – i am married and have two BONUS kids (don’t dare call them my step-kids, they are as much my family as the ones i carried for 9 months!). This space is my outlet, as a person, as a mom, as a wife.
Why i am on here…
Ok, so this is my Mommy/Lifestyle Blog, i like to dabble in multiple things at a time, i always have a full plate… Being a mom does not define who i am, it is part of me! So now that we have established that this is a mom blog — along with my future endeavors of becoming a work-at-home-mom (WAHM). So this is a safe mommy space, not going into bashing others for how they choose to be a parent: if you stay at home, work at home, have a full-time career with your babies in daycare, or if you are a single mom trying to make ends meet. Hate does not belong here. Being a mom is what i am passionate about, i am happy with this choice and finally have the support to able to be at home at the end of this crazy, crappy year of 2020. So now i get to be with my kids starting in 2021 full-time with all of the chaos that goes with it! #ChaosCoordinator
Background
When i was younger and wanted to be a mom, i always thought i would be a homemaker being able to be with my kids all the time. When my oldest was born i was almost 21 years old, not married and had zero support from my ex and i had to go to work to pay for diapers and stuff (luckily his Papaw was a HUGE help along with my parents). Anyways i got into the habit of being away from my kid(s) and when i did get to be home with them it made so upset and frustrated. Work became a “break” from the kids and kids were my break from work, i never thought that i would ever want to be at home again with my kids after that. I felt like such a failure not wanting to be with them like i thought a “good mom” should be. But here’s the thing, i have been soooooo busy, i have been working overtime almost every week for over 2 years; it is killing me on a mental and physical level! It is to the point that i hate myself for how much that i have to miss in my kids’ lives. I am ready for a new adventure!
Here We Go…!!!
So this past week i turned in my notice with my current employer. My last days as a full-time employee is the week of Christmas! I cannot wait, it is a relief and a curse knowing this chapter in my life is ending and now i don’t know what i am gonna do (financially speaking). My husband is in FULL SUPPORT of me quitting and whatever i decide to do. I did, for the time being, opt to keep my status as contingent so i can still pickup hours as time allows, this gives me full flexibility in my schedule. No more multiple 12 hour shifts each week, no more 13 hour long days from hell that drains the life, soul, energy from you. No more having to be “on-call” for Saturdays for an unknown length of time after already working 5 days in a row and put in almost 50 hours already…. I will be able to take my girls to dance, gymnastics, and soon to be softball practice any day i want to. I will be able to take the boys to the 4-5 wrestling practices a week and to the duals over the weekends and to soccer practices and games (i have only missed a couple games due to having to work weekends, i was so pissed!). Yes, you read all of that correctly – i have kids in dance, gymnastics, softball, wrestling, soccer!!!
So until next time…
#ChaosCoordinator abs
